My Letter to SheaMoisture: Dear SheaMoisture…#BREAKTHEWALLS

Dear SheaMoisture,


Your recently published video (posted at the bottom) and the interviews for #BREAKTHEWALLS heavily reminded me of this photo I took and uploaded July 30, 2013 on my personal Facebook page. 
I was over a year into my natural hair and I was working for a merchandising company that would send me to grocery stores around Northeast Ohio. We were in one part of the aisle with the cleaners and paper goods. While on a brief break, I noticed the tiny area with hair care products for people with curly, coily, and kinky hair. Above was this sign. The original reaction when I posted this was, “Hm. I don’t know how feel about the phrase “Ethnic Needs” and the isle that it’s in. :|” The first photo was taken at a Giant Eagle grocery store more than 20 miles west of me.
Almost three years later, I know how I feel and how to describe it a bit better. 
I feel like for the longest time we were, and in some places still are an afterthought. In most stores, our hair care needs are with the household cleansers, the facial cleansers, and the bath soaps. In my opinion, it translates “Servants’ Entrance”. I’m not saying that other people with straight hair don’t buy cleaning products to clean their own house OR even have children with curly, coily, and kinky hair. What I AM saying is that, this sign reminded me of how we, with textured hair are still excluded and put in the back with the broom, mop, and dust pan. If my memory serves me correctly, we were merchandising the paper towels and facial tissues and moving them down closer to the “Ethinic Needs” products. I am not sure if the “Ethnic Needs” were merchandised to another area after I had left that day, but it bothered me enough to share on Facebook and I haven’t forgotten this. Just to include, there were no SheaMoisture products on the shelves at the location of the first picture.
You, SheaMoisture, are changing the game and have been changing the game.  The video I watched this morning made me so happy because I feel so included. I feel that all over inclusion and not that illusion of inclusion.
The type of inclusion that makes me happy that I can get used to seeing myself and women and men like me with textured hair shopping with people with straighter hair. 
Feeling included makes me feel appreciated and wanted as a person and not just for the change in my wallet. I honestly don’t have much. So, yes I meant change. 

The second photo was taken February 1st, 2016 at the Giant Eagle a little over 2 miles down the street from me. And it’s with the the other hair care products! 
Yop! It’s sitting ABOVE the the L’Oreal and John Frieda products. It’s been over two years since I have merchandised, but whoever made the planogram for this shelf MUST be #TeamSheaMoisture…err… I mean a SheaMoisture merchandiser. I was right the first time 😀

So, I mean this wholeheartedly. Thank you! Thank you so much! Thank you for helping me with my hair over the years. Thank you for helping me take care of my son’s long hair over the years and thank you for helping me feel valued! 
Ebony/ CoilySue86

P.S. You can find some of my favorite SheaMoisture products at the bottom of my page.

DOUBLE #DIY: Fluffy Double Whipped Shea Butter Cream & Lotion! #CoilySue86

Hey, everyone! Thanks for visiting my page!

I have two D.I.Y.s for you! I am excited to share this one because it’s my oldest homemade product and I’ve been making this for almost four years. Well, the first part of this recipe I’ve been making for years, but the second half is new and I love it! I use them both in my hair and on my skin. The lighter option for my hair is the Shea butter lotion for everyday use.

Now, I know! I know! There are thousands of homemade whipped shea butter recipes out there, but this one is better. This one feels as good as it looks. That’s right! Fluffy, light, buttery, nourishing, moisturizing, smooth, and never greasy! There are no hidden clumps or very very VERY little clumps (depending on your Shea butter and where you get it from). Beauty Naturals Express has the best fair trade organic unrefined Shea butter from Ghana at a great price with fair shipping prices. AND it’s a black-owned-business! Woot woot! And their customer service is on point with me. Soooo…. Yeah!

Related Post: It Was Time For Change. So, I Cut My Hair. My Mission to Self-Heal.

A quick breakdown of the ingredients:

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Unrefined Organic Shea Butter: Raw and unrefined is how you want your shea butter if you want to get most of the vitamins, anti-aging, and healing properties.

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Unrefined Organic Virgin Coconut Oil: The second ingredient, that left unrefined, will have the most benefits. It’s a very penetrative oil and adds shine to your skin and hair. It’s antifungal and antibacterial. The cheapest and most legit unrefined virgin coconut oil I’ve found is at my local Aldi’s. Simply Nature Organic Coconut Oil for $4.99 a jar! The second cheapest jar is at my local Whole Foods. 365 Brand Unrefined Coconut Oil for $6.99 per jar.

Sweet Almond Oil: Hypoallergenic (unless you have an almond allergy), which is perfect for sensitive skin. This prevents and treats eczema, fine lines, wrinkles, and dark circles. It also hydrates the skin.

Jojoba Oil: It’s an oil that closely resembles our own skin oil (sebum), is a great moisturizer to add to your Shea butter mix. This oil is high in vitamin e and softens and conditions the skin.

Vitamin E Oil: I happen to use food-grade oil. This oil is a great antioxidant and natural preservative to use in your skincare products to fight wrinkles and aid in the reversal of skin damage.

Double-Whipped Shea Butter Recipe: (Video posted below)
A half-pound of unrefined organic Shea butter
1/4 cup of blended oils
1/8 cup of sweet almond oil
1/8 cup of jojoba oil
1 to 2 dropper full of vitamin e oil
And add any essential oils of your choice
1/2 cup of unrefined organic virgin coconut oil
A large mixing bowl
A plastic or wooden spatula
A hand mixer with mixing beaters and a whisk beater.
A clean and dry jar.

Put the Shea butter into a bowl and begin to mix for about a couple minutes to break up the larger clumps.
*If the Shea butter is really cold and hard because some people refrigerate their butter, take it out for a couple hours to a whole day ahead of time.
Take your 1/2 cup of coconut oil and add half of it to the bowl and start mixing for a couple minutes. (Set aside the remaining oil for your lotion.)
*If your coconut oil is cold and in a solid-state do not microwave it or heat it up over the stove. Just sit it out a couple hours ahead of time or add it to the mix as a solid and it will warm up as it’s being mixed.
Take your 1/4 cup of blended oils and pour half of it in and begin mixing again for about three to five minutes or until you start to see peaks forming in the Shea butter. (Set aside the remaining oils for your lotion.)

Stop and use the spatula to scrape the sides of the bowl and to check for any clumps pea-sized or larger. If there are some, keep mixing for another two to three minutes.
After that, eject the mixing beaters and attach the whisk beater.
Scrape the sides of the bowl again to form a mound of Shea butter.
Begin to use the whisk attachment to help eliminate small clumps and to further whip the butter into a smooth cream. Whisk for about three to five minutes and check for clumps.

When done, add your Shea butter to a clean and dry container. Make sure you set aside about 3/4 cup to a whole cup of your whipped Shea butter for your lotion.
When adding your Shea butter to your container, tap the container on your fist or the table to settle the butter down and eliminate large bubbles of air. I avoid piping in the Shea butter with a plastic sandwich bag because I, personally feel that it’s a bit wasteful of plastic and Shea butter that remains in the bag.
This whipped butter will stay fluffy and should last about three to four months.


Double-Whipped Shea Butter Lotion Recipe: (Video posted below)
3/4 cup to 1 cup whipped Shea butter
Your remaining oils plus another 1/4 cup of blended oils.
Any essential oils of your choice.
A small bowl
A whisk.
A thoroughly washed and dried pump bottle.
A kitchen funnel (Optional)

Add your oils to the bowl.
Adding a dollop at a time of Shea butter, whisk the butter in with this oils until smooth.
Use your funnel, or in my case the pump, and bottle your Shea Butter Lotion.
The oils lightly separate over time, but it’s nothing that a gentle shake can’t fix.

Give this a try and let me know what you think! I will respond!

Happy mixing!
Thanks for reading!

Ebony/ CoilySue86/ Ebony Glass Co.


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My Deep Conditioning Routine with D.I.Y Honey-Mayo Deep Conditioner!

Hey everyone!

I am forever and a day eager to demonstrate how I use my homemade whips and mixes. So, I have another to tell you about.
I had recently posted this on YouTube and you may or may not have seen it because…
1. I’m still new.
2. I have a small following. Like, to this day, I have 22 subscribers. *Nervous grin* Please subscribe!
3. And/or you may not have a YouTube account and/or haven’t yet subscribed. *Nervous grin* Please subscribe.

No big deal, that’s why I blog my demonstrations because I want to make sure everyone can find me and what I have to show you. I want to be accessible to all so that I can help as many people as I can.
So, let’s talk about how to make the conditioner first…

D.I.Y Honey-Mayo Deep Conditioner

Now, I have a homemade mix using omitted egg yolks. You know? The ones you didn’t include in your egg white only omelet. If you are like me and HATE strongly dislike same thing, Eb! wasting food, then I will tell you a recipe that will utilize those egg yolks.

DIY: Honey-Mayo Conditioner Video

This recipe is almost the same way you would make a regular mayo to spread on bread for a deli sandwich. However, there is the use of popular skin and hair conditioning oils. Not saying that olive oil isn’t conditioning, but it does have a strong smell and it can be too heavy of an oil, in my opinion. Also, I wanted this conditioner to be more of a liquid mayo. Something that I could pour into my hand and easily smooth through my hair. This recipe is for all hair types and not just the kinky. So, don’t think this isn’t for you because your hair is straighter or you have a looser curl.

This recipe contains some of my favorite oils. Sweet almond oil, jojoba oil, vitamin e oil (food grade), and Spectrum canola oil & coconut oil blend. If you have none of these oils, by all means experiment with your favorite oils. Try it with light extra virgin olive oil, virgin unrefined coconut oil, avocado oil, grapeseed oil, et cetera. Experiment and play with ways to make you are as healthy as possible. It can be really fun!

The run down on the ingredients.

Egg Yolks:
The main ingredient and the emulsifier of your conditioner. They contain vitamins A, B6, B12, D, E, K, and minerals calcium, iron, phosphorus, zinc, thiamine, and folate which leave your strands soft and well conditioned. It’s like a super multi-vitamin in a shell… a messy little multi-vitamin but it works!

The humectant and emollient of you conditioner, meaning it draws in surrounding moisture to your hair and it softens and smooths. It’s also an anti-fungal, which helps to fight dandruff and flaking caused by fungal growth from sweating and candida (yeast).

Jojoba Oil:
An oil that closely resembles our own skin oil (sebum), it’s one of the best oils that is great for hydrating your strands, it’s high in Vitamin E, and like honey, it’s also antibacterial and helps fight dandruff and other scalp issues.

Sweet Almond Oil:
Like the egg it is another super multi-vitamin, this oil is high in vitamins A, B (B1, B2, B6), D and E, magnesium, potassium, and zinc. It’s another one of the best oils to nourish and hydrate your hair.

Vitamin E Oil (I use food grade):
This thick oil adds shine to your hair, helps to “repair” split ends. Or at least help them not look as bad until you get those ends trimmed. I mean, once a hair is split, it’s split. There’s no gluing it back together. Although, it will help to prevent split ends.

*Apple Cider Vinegar:
This will clarify your hair and boost the shine of your hair. That’s it! That’s why it’s optional. It will thin out your mix, but the mix will still coat the strands of your hair.

Now to get the benefit of all the vitamins and minerals for healthy hair, it is BEST to eat foods that contain these. So, not only do you use sweet almond oil in your hair, but snacking on almonds or almond butter is great for your hair too.

Okay. Enough chit chat. Here’s the recipe.

D.I.Y Honey-Mayo Deep Conditioner:
2 to 3 egg yolks that have been sealed, refrigerated, and are no more than 48 hours old.
1 teaspoon of Honey.
1/8 to 1/4 cup of a blend oils, preferably light oils. Canola & Coconut oil blend, sweet almond oil, jojoba oil, and vitamin E oil.
*Apple Cider Vinegar (Optional and will make the blend thinner)
A hand mixer with a whisk attachment. Or a hand whisk and strong forearms.
A medium sized bowl.
A small bottle to store the conditioner.

If you are using blended oils, take your 1/4 cup and fill it half way with the base oil which would be whatever oil you want the most of. Then, fill the remaining 1/8 cup with the other oils until it reaches the top. Now, you may not use all of the oils, but the more oil you add, the thicker the conditioner, the more conditioner you get.

Take out your egg yolks and begin to whisk to break up the yolks and make them smooth. Keep whisking and take either a 1/4 teaspoon or a 1/2 teaspoon and use that to slowly add the oils to the whisking eggs. Keep doing this until you see it begin to thicken.
*Unlike, I did in the video, keep it whisking while you add drops of apple cider vinegar. Only drops are needed.

Then, pour the the mayo into a bottle for easy application. Or keep it in the bowl if you are going to use it right away. If you have any left over, seal or bottle and refrigerate. For me, it lasted a little over two weeks. It might have lasted longer, but I kept using it.

My Deep Conditioning Routine.

My Deep Conditioning Routine.

I had just cleansed my hair with my clarifying clay wash. I sectioned my hair into four sections.

Working one section at a time, I smoothed this honey-mayo throughout my hair. I applied it heavily to my ends and edges because they both deal with a lot of pulling and friction.

Applying the conditioner. 

Remember to split apart each section and work in the conditioner to make sure none of your hair is being left out. Then, twist and clip each section, cover with a plastic cap. place a towel or t-shirt over the plastic cap. If you are using a towel, make sure the towel isn’t touching your edges. We don’t want any snagging. Then, leave on for 15 minutes to a half hour. Or leave on for an hour, but it will warm and it may start to drip down onto your ears and neck.

Checking my coils.

This part is optional, but I followed up with a co-wash with Trader Joe’s Tea Tree Tingle. I, then, blotted my hair with a t-shirt, applied my homemade leave in, and left it alone to air dry.

My coils were soft, fluffy, and shiny. You can use this as a prepoo or after you shampoo. Figure out what works for you and your hair.

Please watch the videos, like, comment, share, and subscribe! And leave a comment or a question below. I’d love to get some feedback!

Thanks for visiting my blog.

See you later!

Ebony/ CoilySue86


The Best Acne and Dandruff Fighting Masks!

Hey everyone!

I have been experimenting and filming some of them with a new camera that I am still getting used to. But I have a new creation to help fight acne and dandruff naturally or with natural products. Well, it’s not NEW new because this method has been used before. However, this is my personal recipe using the antibacterial and anti-fungal properties of tea tree oil in combination with Moroccan Mud a.k.a Rhassoul Clay and Bentonite clay.

From my personal (non-professional) research, acne and dandruff are not caused by the same things. However, I have found that there are types of acne bumps that can appear on the face, neck, and chest or back that are caused by candida and can be treated the same with this mix IF you are to try to treat your symptoms at home.
Both of these recipes contain the same ingredients but vary in the amount of the ingredients used.
The recipe is simple and can be adjusted to meet your personal needs.

 The Best Acne and Dandruff Fighting Masks!
My Coily hair with The Clarifying, Dandruff Fighting Hair Mask.

This recipe calls for these wonderful ingredients and here’s how they will help your skin, scalp, and hair improve.

Aloe Vera Juice is made from the gel of the aloe vera plant. Aloe vera contains saponin which is a blend of anti-inflammatory, antibacterial, and anti-fungal properties. It makes a great skin and hair conditioner, leaving both the hair and skin very soft.

Organic Rhasshoul Clay(Moroccan Mud) 1lb (453 grams)
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Rhassoul Clay (Moroccan Mud) or (Moroccan Ghassoul Clay) mined from the Atlas Mountains, is brownish red in color and is known for its unmatched abilities to detox and remove impurities from the skin and hair. The mineral contents are what gives this clay it’s ability to improve skin clarity and elasticity, reduces dryness, and unblocks pores.

Pure Bentonite Clay 1 lb(16 oz)
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Bentonite Clay (Sodium Bentonite) is aged volcanic ash sun dried to remove any excess moisture (the type I ordered is a product of the United States). When hydrated, it goes through electrical and molecular changes and becomes electrically charged. It is this electrical charge that absorbs and removes toxins from your skin and hair. **Note** DO NOT USE ANY METAL UTENSILS TO MIX THIS CLAY. It will interfere with the electrical charge and will not do what is meant to do, which is detox the hair and skin.
This is also a swelling clay when hydrated. So, when using this in a recipe, just know that it will expand.

Yes, both of these clays have awesome detoxification properties that with each use will improve your skin and hair.They both condition and nourish the hair and scalp.

Jojoba Oil (Simmondsia chinensis) an oil from the jojoba plant. It’s an oil that closely resembles our own skin oil (sebum), is a great moisturizer to add to this mix to avoid over-drying of the skin with this mask. Which is a common result with people and may cause breakouts to appear or worsen. But jojoba oil also has antibacterial properties that control bacterial growth in the pores and hair follicles. It’s high in vitamin e and softens and conditions the skin.

Tea Tree Oil (Melaleuca alternifolia) is from a tree native to Australia and is known for it’s anti-fungal, antibacterial, and antiviral properties. There have been studies to show that it can work as well (but not as quickly) as benzoyl peroxide, but with fewer side effects.If you want a great acne treatment without all the side effects, products with tea tree oil will be of great benefit to you.

*Note: Tea Tree oil is an oil that shouldn’t be used alone. If used by itself, the potency is strong enough to irritate the skin and the potent aroma can irritate the eyes. So, just take that as a warning that you shouldn’t use this without the above ingredients or a carrier oils such as jojoba oil, olive oil, coconut oil, etc. Or used without diluting liquids such as water, aloe vera juice, rosewater, etc.

Let’s start with part one which is the face mask recipe.

The Best Acne-Fighting Clay Mask!!! CoilySue86

The Best Acne-Fighting Clay Mask Recipe!

2 Tbsp of Organic Aloe Vera Juice

1 Tbsp of Rhassoul Clay (Moroccan Mud)

1 to 2 Tbsp of Bentonite Clay (Sodium Bentonite) 

1 to 2 tsp of Jojoba Oil

About 6 to 8 drops of Tea Tree Oil

Using a small cup or bowl, add all the ingredients and mix thoroughly with a NON-METAL spoon. So, wood or plastic is fine. Try to get it as smooth as possible. If there are small clumps, that is fine, but large clumps may mean that there are dry pockets of clay. 

If your mix is soupy, wait for 3 to 5 minutes to see if the bentonite clay will expand even further. If doens’t, then add more bentonite clay only. I say only because bentonite clay will expand and even out the clay to liquid ratio. Plus, for me, the bentonite clay is the cheaper of the two clays. So, it makes sense to use the bentonite clay. 

If you have any leftover, refrigerate the remaining clay. From my own experience, it will last one week. If you don’t refrigerate, it will get moldy.

How I use this face mask:

I apply it, avoiding the hairline, and I leave it only until it dries. If it gets uncomfortable before it completely dries, that’s okay. Just spray or splash with water or just go ahead and rinse it off.

It usually leaves me with soothed and smoothed skin!

**To see a how to make this clay, watch it here!**

The Clarifying, Dandruff Fighting Hair Mask! ~ CoilySue86

The Clarifying, Dandruff Fighting Hair Mask Recipe!

1/4 cup of Organic Aloe Vera Juice. It will vary on how much hair you have. But start with a little. 

1 Tbsp of Rhassoul Clay (Moroccan Mud)

1 Tbsp of Bentonite Clay (Sodium Bentonite)

1 Tbsp of Jojoba Oil

6 to 8 Drops of Tea Tree Oil

In a bottle small enough for the application, mix all the ingredients and shake well. After shaking, this is the time to determine if this is enough for that amount of hair you have. If it is not enough for you, add more aloe vera juice. *You don’t want to realize you don’t have enough while in the middle of applying this mask. 

*There are some people who make this mix really thick for their hair, I think that is not a good idea. The thicker the clay mix, the harder it will be to rinse out of your hair. Especially, if you have kinky coily hair like me. It’s not impossible to rinse out, but it will take much longer and probably a trip or two back into the shower or over the sink, depending on where you wash your hair. 

How I use this hair mask:
I section my hair into four sections. I apply the liquid directly to my hair and massage it into my scalp for a few minutes each time for each section. This mix shouldn’t dry in the hair because of the amount of oil and water in it, but if it feels like it’s drying, spray with water OR apply it in the shower and apply then rinse each section out.

The results are always amazing! I use this about once a month or when I see my dandruff returning.

**To see me demonstrate how this hair wash made, watch it here!**
**To see me demonstrate how I multi-task using these two masks, watch it here!**

To find the products mentioned here, here are links to make your shopping a whole lot easier.

Both Rhassoul Clay and Bentonite Clay were purchased from at the best prices I’ve seen online so far. AND It’s a B.O.B (Black Owned Business).

Aloe Vera Juice: The Thrive Market <—– Click this link to join Thrive Market for free. Then click this link to order.

My Jojoba Oil and Tea Tree Oil were purchased from Amazon.

Feel free to leave me a comment below or if you have any questions, leave those below as well.

Thanks for visiting!

See you later!

~Ebony/ CoilySue86


Homemade (Drunken) Vanilla Sugar Body Scrub.

Just in time for the winter holiday season!

A very easy 7 ingredient recipe to make a homemade, exfoliating, delicious smelling body scrub.

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This will leave your skin feeling smooth, hydrated, glowing, and moisturized. You can make this for yourself or to give away as a special homemade gift for the holidays.

Every ingredient in this scrub has the best benefits for your skin care needs.

1. Turbinado sugar is a great exfoliator. It removes the dead skin cells, allowing absorption of moisture and nutrients and stimulates blood flow and rejuvenation. It dissolves slower when wet, giving your more scrubs per stroke.

2. Cinnamon is an anti-microbal super spice! It’s great for fighting acne, healing scars, and scratches, and promotes blood circulation. It will also, add a warm and fragrant smell to your scrub.

3. Sweet Almond oil is hypoallergenic, which is perfect for sensitive skin. This oil is used to treat eczema, fine lines, wrinkles, and dark circles. It is also good to clean pores and prevents moisture loss in the skin.

** Avoid if you have an allergy to almonds.**

4. Vanilla extract has anti-inflammatory properties that can cool and soothe irritated skin.

The Madagascar bourbon vanilla extract is named after the vanilla bean that is grown on the Bourbon islands. They are much more richer in flavor. The alcohol that is added to this extract is ethyl alcohol which is found in most alcoholic beverages. Don’t worry, this won’t dry out your skin if added to the recipe here. The sweet almond oil will prevent any drying.

5. Lemon/ Lemon Juice  helps to even skin tone and fade scars, hyper-pigmentation, and age spots.

6. Honey is an antibacterial and a humectant. Which means is will prevent acne while drawing moisture to your skin.

7. Vitamin E Oil is a great antioxidant and natural preservative to use in your skincare products and in your food (using the food grade oil). This fights wrinkles and aids in the reversal of skin damage.

These are the right ingredients to help you pamper, exfoliate, and moisturize your skin.







Ingredients: (Druken) Vanilla Sugar Body Scrub.

1 Cup turbinado sugar. If this sugar is too rough on your skin, try using regular brown or white sugar.

1/4 to 1/2 teaspoon of Ground Cinnamon.

3 Tbsp Sweet Almond Oil

1 Tbsp Vanilla Extract. (I used Madagascar Bourbon Vanilla).

1/4 of a lemon or 1-2 Tbsp Lemon Juice

2 Tbsp Honey

1/2 a dropper of Vitamin E oil. (I used the food grade).

Mix these all in a bowl. **Note, use your oil in your Tbsp before using the honey. The oil will help all the honey slide right out.** Mix thoroughly and put into air tight containers.

This scrub will not spoil or disappoint. Enjoy!

Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!

Leave a comment below and let me know how your skin feels after using this scrub.

10 Ways To Use Your Time & Money Wisely While Unemployed.

Yes, it is possible to use your time to do other things besides job searching. Just because you are unemployed, that doesn’t mean your time is any less valuable than your money. 

Unemployment can be time for bonding and to further develop your mind, body, spirit, and become better and well- rounded person. 
Along with your job search, there are other ways to make the most of your unemployment.


To avoid stressing about you don’t have and how you’re going to get it, spend time with who is right there with you. Being unemployed allows you to have more energy and time to spend it with your loved ones and create more moments and memories that money can’t buy. If you live alone, spend time taking care of yourself. I mean, you love you too. Right? 


You can spend time with the ones you love or by yourself and don’t have to spend a dime. You can subscribe to get updates from local recreation centers, museums, skating rinks, shopping malls, food trucks, even local art and fashion colleges via email or on Facebook. 


Expand your mind by learning a new language or two with free apps like Duolingo.

You can also find a friend who is bilingual or multi-lingual who is willing to help you learn a new language. 

There is a complete immersion into the language of your choice. You can change your phone settings, computer settings, or Facebook settings to in all in Spanish, French, or whatever. It will make you have to figure out what is being said. 
**Note: It helps to know the language just a little bit before doing a complete immersion. Or you will become frustrated very quickly.


There are a handful of awesome apps and sites that will help you save and earn hundreds of dollars on your groceries, clothing, and other in-store or online purchases. And you get paid with REAL MONEY!!!

For rebates on groceries and other miscellaneous purchases:

  1. Ibotta. The best app, by far to earn cash back on groceries, clothes, electronics, and even alcoholic beverages.
  2. Saving Star
  3. Checkout 51.
  4. Receipt Hog. Use this code when you sign up. vift4435

For online purchases: On local and faraway deals.

  1. Ebates. This site has a large list of popular online retailers like Target, Walmart, and even Groupon. 
  2. Groupon. You can get great deals on local restaurants, travel, and lodging, local events, etc. And don’t forget to go through Ebates to get a rebate on already awesome deals! Talk about getting a rebate at a discount. Double WINNING tho!
  3. This site is the best for local restaurant deals!

*Tip: For more ways to save money on food and groceries. Try making a list of your favorite companies and search for their coupons online. If you can not find coupons, email these companies, telling them how much you love their products, if they have any coupons to mail to you, and ask how often you are allowed to ask for them. Keep a notebook of which companies you’ve contacted and their responses.

I like to give advice without trying to offend. However, I like to share what I believe in wholeheartedly. 
If you are the spiritual type, unemployment is the time to advance and further yourself into what you believe in. It helps to get up every morning, before the children get up, and pray, read, meditate, or listen to uplifting words or music that quiets or dulls the negative brain chatter before it can even get started. 
For me, I pray, read my bible and an encouraging devotional before my son gets up in the morning before school. Why? Because I am one who has issues with waking up to repetitive and negative thoughts. Thoughts that I believe have no good reason to think about, let alone wake up to. They can ruin my mornings very quickly. Reading the bible, praying, listening to worship music helps me to be the warrior that I know that I am.

Related: 10 Ways I Relieved My Symptoms of Depression. 
This one is easy to do while unemployed. You have more time to volunteer your time to a local food pantry, to help an elderly neighbor rake leaves or pull weeds, or sort old clothes and donate to charity. See if there is a donation pickup tuck in your area to come and get it for you.
Doing this also helps you to take your mind off your problems by helping someone else. Also, by extending yourself, you may be able to find that help or job that you need.
Try new recipes. 
Take up a cooking class. 
Try acting classes (I did and I love it!) 
Try a new hair color or style, get a weave or a wig, etc. 
Learn how to knit or sew via YouTube.
De-clutter and organize your home.
Start a new project or finish an old one.
This may be counter productive to your job search. I mean, your brains might turn to mush, depending on what you are binge watching. However, it will give you a much needed break from pounding that pavement. And you will be in the loop with the other Heroes fans! 
And I don’t just mean just Pin photos of them. Read up on them. Figure what they did. You can still apply the hustle. Start with small time people. Like, other bloggers and vloggers, local acting and singing talent. Follow and Tweet those people. 
Nooo. I’m not saying you should bum it out. I’m saying for the moment, accept that you are currently unemployed. 
Next, look around and notice that everything is okay right now in this moment. Then, take some time and write out what your next move should be. Do some accounting and figure if you can afford to stay and work at home with the children while your partner works outside the some. If that isn’t possible or is the undesired way to go, look into starting your own side-hustle or business or work from home. 
I’m still learning what will go into turning my hustle into a full business. So, I don’t have much advice there. However, I recommend buying a notebook or if you can afford it, a large 24″ x 18″ or 24″ x 36″ white board to brainstorm and create a flow chart of how you want to get from where you are to where you want to be.
If you want to work at home for another company, I suggest visiting these sites that have legit job postings. 
  1. *Rat race Rebellion.
  2. Amazon Mturk. You don’t earn a whole lot from them, but it is possible to to earn in between $10 to $20 per week. You do get paid real money. 
*Note, some jobs posted may not be available because the position has been filled or is no longer listed. I am just referring you to these sites. Nothing more and nothing less.
And sometimes, when you except or embrace your unemployment, that is usually the moment you get calls or emails from recruiters.
So, hang in there! What is for you, is for you. It’s okay to make the most of a quiet season.
What tips do you have to benefit during unemployment? I’d love to hear or read from you.


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